Living More Fully With or Without Stuttering
#1 Assume personal responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, decisions, and actions. You may have had a genetic predisposition toward stuttering but what you feel, think, decide, and do about it is your responsibility.
#2 Adopt flexible beliefs about your desires. Granted you are entitled to choose your desires, however, if you falsely talk yourself into believing you need what you want, you may end up in a world of hurt. It is only natural that you may not cheer that you have a stutter, but demanding that you absolutely must get rid of all of it, may be silly and unreal.
#3 Accept reality with its good and bad aspects. Neither succumbs to the temptation of deifying the good ones such as fluent speech nor assign horror to bad ones such as stuttering.
#4 Develop tolerance for the discomfort that stuttering brings, but even more tolerance for discomfort that comes from working to recover from stuttering.
#5 Learn first to acknowledge your stuttering and then to unconditionally accept yourself with all your idiosyncrasies such as stuttering. Meanwhile taking as good a care as you can of yourself.
#6 Allow yourself to experience healthy negative emotions about stuttering but not capitulating to unhealthy negative emotions. The difference being that unhealthy negative emotions are extreme, inflexible, lead to emotional disturbance and increased stuttering. Thus, avoid shame, anxiety, fear, guilt, depression, etc. while allowing feelings like dislike, attentiveness, concern and sadness…
#7 Think scientifically, critically, and creatively about stuttering and stuttering therapy.
#8 Develop and pursue vitally absorbing interests—focusing on something outside of yourself and stuttering.
#9 Initiate and improve your relationships with others.
#10 Develop a realistic outlook toward what you can change in your stuttering. To wit, you can change a lot about your stuttering and feelings about it with intensive and persistent effort using a good holistic approach. The holistic approach utilizes three tracks: Active, ongoing motivation; changing of beliefs, attitudes and emotions as in rational and cognitive behavioral psychology; and identifying and changing (re-learning) speech production. (see my book and website)