Acceptance Of Reality About Stuttering

Basic acceptance of reality

  • Sun rises in the East
  • Life is challenging for everyone
  • We are by nature fallible, limited, non-perfectible
  • We cannot make demands on universe, others, and even ourselves and expect that these demands will be fulfilled
  • But we can strongly desire certain goals and in most probability achieve them or come close

Acceptance of reality about stuttering

  • Right now you stutter the way you stutter right now; acknowledge it say london psychotherapy experts
  • You can’t demand it to change, but you can strongly desire it to change and work towards changing it
  • You can almost instantly realize that stuttering is not awful: 1) it does not cause unbearable pain, 2) you can still enjoy many, many other things
  • You can decide not to beat upon yourself (deprecate yourself) for stuttering
  • You can think hard and realize that all people have equal worth in the eyes of the universe (we all are born, live, and die).
  • Stuttering can’t make you less worthwhile.
  • There is no law in the universe that you should not stutter.
  • Stuttering causes some discomfort-but you can stand it: you have stood it so far
  • In time you can minimize stuttering severity and frequency, but there is no guarantee that you will totally eliminate it.

Acceptance of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)  ideas about stuttering

  • Stuttering probably has genetic component and a learned component
  • With effort and time, the learned part: the forcing, struggling, hard contact blocks, and elongations can be minimized
  • With effort and time feelings of inferiority, shame, anxiety, guilt, time urgency, low tolerance of frustration and discomfort, anger at self or others, and the feelings of helplessness/hopelessness, and the avoidances can be radically cut back
  • The accessory (secondary) behaviors can be practically eliminated.

Acceptance That You Have a Choice

  • You have a choice whether to work on your speech to minimize struggle and unhealthy negative emotions or do nothing.
  • You have a choice which approach to use.
  • Not learning about the different approaches and not using blood, sweat, and tears to apply a new approach in your self-therapy (if your present one is not working) is a choice. Not doing anything is a choice to remain in the same state of stuttering. You have a right to do so. YOU can live a good life, whether you stutter or not.

Summarizing Acceptance

  • Don’t demonize stuttering
    • Don’t awfulize it
    • Don’t pull off an “I-can’t-stand-it”
    • Don’t deprecate or down yourself because of stuttering
    • Stuttering does not make you a child of a lesser god
  • Don’t trivialize it
    • Accept that stuttering does have its inconveniences
  • Humanize stuttering
    • Learn to live with your stuttering in daily life until you decide to do something about it